Self love has also been mention to my last blog over a year ago in “Things I’ve learned at 22” and ever since then I started practicing self love little by little until now.
As May 2019 ends, here’s my thoughts.
I notice that people nowadays are so busy catching up with each other like they’re in a Life Race. People are pressured to accomplish their goals in life in a very short period of time.
In our world today, specially at my age, we are so defined to do society standards like having a partner, getting married, getting a good and stable job, a house, kids, car or financial stability. We are so busy doing all that things to make it work but in the end when we are alone, we feel lost, hopeless, empty, that nobody need us because someone is always better than us and everything we do are all not enough.
At first self love may sounds like being selfish. Self love is not about thinking just yourself and not having a consideration on others. Self love is the belief that you are valuable and worthy person. Back then, discovering self love makes me realize that life is not a race, it’s a journey. To just be yourself and feel whole in the process. That you don’t let others defined you because you know yourself better and not what others told you to be. It’s letting go of habit of living in what others says.
I would to share some tips to you on Self Care and Self Love where we will discover more about ourselves and get our life more organize and set our minds on what really matters. Our thoughts are stronger than what you think it is because our thoughts become our feelings and our feelings become our actions.
Here are some tips on how you will start on your journey to self love. These tips actually works on me, but as I was saying this journey doesn’t happen overnight, some might work on you and some might not so you at least try and try until you know what works on you. I know starting is always the hardest but just give it a try, “trying won’t kill you” *wink*
1.Give yourself alone time.
Have a time with yourself. Go to a place where you feel at ease and peace. It may be your room, church, seaside, coffee shop, restaurant or park. If you feel awkward walking around on yourself. I would suggest you go to a place where no one knows you, so you can just keep in mind “I don’t know them and they don’t know me, so it’s okay”. I also let myself just stare at a blank space and thoughts will caved in. Some of my realizations are those people who judge and mistreated me doesn’t really mattered at all and that everyone has their own flaws and imperfections and we really just need to embrace everything from what we can and can’t do. You are not born to please anyone. Realize that your happiness doesn’t depend on people who don’t like you, that you have to be something you are not for them. Eventually true friends will stay by your side!
2. Bring a notebook and a pen with you.
You can just sit anywhere your comfortable with and write all your random thoughts,.Just write any thoughts that come to your mind. It could be school stuffs, work, hatred, rants, gratitudes or you could even write a letter to someone, write what you want to say to him/her or even a letter for yourself. Keep it, read it again for some time in the future. You can also write, I don’t know to say. Done that.
3. Treat yourself.
We have different ways of treating ourselves. Some buys clothes, bags and shoes. Some eat something they really want. Some treat themselves a pedicure, manicure and new hairstyle. Some get a massage. Some go to church and pray. But me I would rather be alone in my room, lighting a scented candle, writing, crying and then get a good sleep.
4. Have someone very close to talk to.
Call someone very close to you and share them your thoughts, someone you knew who wouldn’t judge you. I recommend having at least one go to person, whom you can talk to with transparently anything. It could be your mom, your dad, siblings or a close friend. If none, you can send me an email I’ll read it, and give you some advice but if you just want to share your rants and thoughts about how you hate someone or your life, just put a “do not reply” message at the end or I would suggest you to pray. Talk to Him. He always listens to us. These verses might help:
5. Find a hobby or things you are passionate about.
Paint, compose a song, finish a poem, exercise, yoga, swimming, hiking, biking, Meditate. Any habit that would make you happy and feel at peace. This is also a way of keeping your mind busy.
6. Eat healthy and get fit.
If you’re starting on self love you must also love your body right now. If we are so busy we tend to not eat good food and not keeping an eye on what you eat today will cause some problems later.
7. Travel. Travel alone, with friends or with family at least twice a year. It’s nice to be at a place you’ve never been before. Meeting new people will make you discover what life really is.
8. Keep everything organize. It can be your thoughts or goals in life. Having a journal helps a lot. It doesn’t need to be a perfect notebook, you can write at scratch write what you feel to release it. And also having something to look up to will keep you reminded and feel more organize on what should be doing. You can also clean your closet. Organize your room, your books, or your collections, if any.
Thank you so much for reading, I hope you learn and realize something from this post. I am thankful that you are reading this until the end. So cheers to a work in process happiest self! ☺️
You can comment down below all your thoughts about my list on self love. Tell me stories if this lists works on you. I will be gladly reading all your emails. Thank you so much. All love.
– Cher, theblackandwhitethoughts